Help! My Mil Pureed Leftover Table Food That Had Gone Bad, Reheated Until Boiling Point, And Gave It To Baby?
Now apparently this wasn’t the first time she did it.
Only this time I caught her.
I had a change of plan and decided to pick up my son from her place. She was feeding my son and he plainly refused, which wasn’t normal, because he always loves food and mealtime.
Babies must’ve had a sixth sense for bad food.
So she didn’t answer when I asked her what it was, but one of the maids in the kitchen (yes, my mil has several maids) finally told me that it was leftover food that had spoiled.
My mil didn’t want to throw it away because they were kinda expensive, so she had these food reheated until steaming hot “to kill all bacterias”, added some seasonings, and then put in a blender.
When I confronted her, she said the food is of high quality and very expensive, and even if it had spoiled, boiling would make it good again. She said she’d fed this type of “cuisine” many times to my baby and he was “fine” and “loving it”.
Previously, my son has had diarrhea after seeing his granma. But mil had always blamed it on my bad hygiene, my house being dirty, etc, etc.
He seems fine now and still breastfeeding, but I wonder if someday, my mil’s cooking could cause more than just mild diarrhea.
I wish I had a choice to leave him to another caretaker.
If your MIL is *really* feeding your child spoiled food, then I simply wouldn’t leave him over there anymore. Not only is that gross, but can be potentially unhealthy.
How come, if your MIL has all these maids running around, they don’t throw all the old food away before your MIL gets her dirty little hands on it? Or provide his own meals from home if he must stay over there.
What food are you talking about? Because there isn’t a food (that I know of) that would be so expensive that someone would want to keep eating it after it spoiled. That’s crazy.
If foods been leftover for too long then (like more than a day) boiling it wont change the fact that it has gone off and you can’t risk that kind of thing with babies its better to give them fresh food all the time. I don’t think it will cause long-term problems for your baby but do talk to your MIL and tell her that you want him to have fresh food everyday.
She sounds awful, calling food ‘cuisine’, having multiple maids, ‘high quality and very expensive food’, ‘boiling making good again’ Exactly what era is she living in? Her methods sound seriously out of date.
Honey you have to find someone else to care for your son. She cannot be trusted.
“leftover food that had spoiled”!!
“re-heated and then feed to a baby!!”
babies die from food poisoning!!
do not let that woman near the child! she needs an education ASAP!
it is called depraved indifference….but I am sure her lawyer will know about that.
What an utterly stupid mil you have. Don’t ever take risks with baby food. My sisters baby VERY nearly died for samonella when very young. Tell your mil that she should never give your baby reheated food again ever! better still, seek alternative arrangements altogether, such as a childminder!
If you can’t stop work at least find a responsible child minder for your boy because she will do it again, are you willing to risk that happening again? Food poisening can kill a small child.
you need to stop sendingg your son to he to get looked after If you don”t and your son gets sick, you are the one to blame not her cause you sent him there knowing what was going on.
i would take him to the dr and not let her care for your son again, there are other choices and i think you will make other options for the sake of your son xxx
when food spoils, it is no longer edible. Boiling it is ridiculous. Do not feed your baby spoiled food. And do something about this immediately.
Obviously this woman is not fit to care for your child. You must make other childcare arrangements immediately. (She can pay for maids but not for extra baby food? Please.)
Just bring food for him to eat there. Tell her this is wat he is to eat – no exceptions. If she doesnt abide then please find another caregiver.
your son is your responability- don t let others grow him for u he s your son –she s like giving him expensive ****
OMG I would freak out family or not it would be on. Your child could get really sick. Get your son away.
what is wrong with you mil…thats disgusting….and where did she get her knowledge from…i think she needs commonsense 101
sorry but you need to pack up work and look after your own son
this woman is a danger
TROLL
If she has maids, then she can afford to give your son food that isnt spoiled. My suggestion is to find another babysitter, I would be upset about this, because this can cause your little son to get very sick and have food poison. Unfort. older people think things like this is fine, and your son is getting sick off of this, so this isnt healthy and could put your son in the hospital. I dont mean to be so harsh, but I would start looking around for another care taker-it might be more expensive, but it could be safer then this, because if she does this, what else could she be doing? Did you talk to your husband about this? Maybe he can talk to her, or sit her down and be strict about this. I live with my parents so whenever my parents do something with my daughter I dont like I put my foot down. They always give me the well we raised two kids and they turned out fine, and its true, but I dont feel comfortable, so I tell them no. You need to do the same thing, to me this isnt healthy.
That’s lovely of her, she won’t eat it so she’ll give it to your baby!?! This woman is mad. If she can afford several maids I’m sure she can afford to chuck away spoiled food, however expensive it was. You and your partner must make sure she understands how dangerous this is. I bet it’s a lot more dangerous for your baby than for a grown up (like her) to have this rotten food.
How about you give her all your son’s meals for the day when you drop him off? Then she won’t have to come up with her crazy recipes
I would tell her that if boiling makes it good again then you’d like to see her eat some of it. Then when (and if) she does, grab your son, tell her he’s not eating garbage–since that’s exactly what it is–and leave. I would NEVER leave my son alone with her again. You say you don’t have a choice, but what’s there to choose? Your son’s health or cheap/free “care” (and I use the term very loosely)? The crazy old bat should be nowhere near anyone’s children.
And what does your hubby have to say about all this? Let him deal with his mother and in the mean time find someone else to care for your child when you can’t. Don’t leave him alone with this woman anymore. Just because it is boiled doesn’t mean it is no longer spoiled. If it is so expensive, why doesn’t she boil it and eat it.
Have you spoken to your husband apout this if she is anything like my MIL she wont listen or change for me but will do anything for her darling son. If you can present a united front and warn her about her behavoiur you can start eigher getting her to be more sensible or getting your husbands head around finding alternative care for your son
you cant give a baby caviar!? old fish! no matter how bloody expensive it was! its not your problem she didnt eat in time! i bet she doesnt eat it past the best before date! what the hell is wrong with her? you should talk to her about it and only let her give him food that you have prepared yourself! make up lunch and supper in tupperware pots and make sure she gives him that and only that! he could get food poisoning! my mum had it really bad and ended up in hospital its not to be taken lightly! and she was a grown woman imagine what could happen to you young baby! i would have gone absolutely mental!